tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33192339.post3997537514001695014..comments2024-01-11T05:32:46.245-05:00Comments on Jill, The WARRIOR: I love the gospel of Jesus ChristMamapiercehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08313103546500488010noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33192339.post-22099295932387073962008-10-28T11:41:00.000-04:002008-10-28T11:41:00.000-04:00I agree with Diana.She is very overstimulated when...I agree with Diana.<br><br>She is very overstimulated when you are tossing her and spinning her. She likes it but it's too much for her. I would keep her world very small, very quiet, and very very calm right now and when you get home. She has lived in a very contained, very small world. She loves the excitement of all the new (parents, love, tossing, swinging, playing) but it is too much for her because she's never known that. In the excitement of it all, she gets overwhelmed and hits/pulls hair. As hard as it is, pull back on the excitement and keep things very calm and connected. Hope this helps! She's darling as is your son!ramblinamblinshttp://ramblinamblins.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33192339.post-6841447913068383322008-10-28T08:04:00.000-04:002008-10-28T08:04:00.000-04:00If you think about it from a developmental standpo...If you think about it from a developmental standpoint, many professionals believe that little kids hit, bite, etc. due to frustration over the inability to communicate. You are looking at a child who has been in a "survival of the fittest" envivornment, is having everything about her world and identity changed, and doesn't have the language skills to talk to you about it. It would be frustrating.<br><br>While I certainly hope that it resolves quickly for you, be prepared for the possibility that it won't. My sister's older son was very aggressive for, well, a long time, and her daughter was frequently the recipient of it. It was very hard for all of them. Her second son didn't have any aggression issues, though. It depends on the kid, but it can be a real challenge in a child with an inclination to express him or herself that way.Katiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05486157649766532181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33192339.post-65294422614874276382008-10-27T22:21:00.000-04:002008-10-27T22:21:00.000-04:00Jota! I miss you! I love to read your blog and hea...Jota! I miss you! I love to read your blog and hear how things are going. We called the other day, but you were sleeping. We will call again! About the slapping hand thing, I don't see any problem with that. I would do the same. But what do I know? I only have one child and she's going wild these days. :) I can't wait to hear more and see pics! Love you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15240171960397803436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33192339.post-47437698325775978722008-10-27T15:59:00.000-04:002008-10-27T15:59:00.000-04:00I would be careful with slapping her hand for hitt...I would be careful with slapping her hand for hitting. To a child it doesn't make sense for them to be disciplined in the same way of the offense. Also she is a "hurt" child and needs to be dealt with in different ways than the "normal" child. You want her to have respect for you and not be afraid of you. Also I would not reward with food at this point. Our kids both had food issues and still struggle with that a bit. Reward her with something she likes (tossing in the air). Just a few thoughts. I know it's going to be a long road ahead. Continue to pray for direction in helping all THREE kids in the adjustment along with yourselves.<br><br>Thanks for letting us be apart of your journey.<br><br>KamberJoseph and Kamberhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17465070065281795493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33192339.post-3740001579464331022008-10-27T14:16:00.000-04:002008-10-27T14:16:00.000-04:00When Isaac is hitting I strap him in my lap and ho...When Isaac is hitting I strap him in my lap and hold him so he can't move and I say "Mommy does not like to get hit. Do not hit," or "in our family hitting is not acceptable" or something similar. I sit him on my lap until he calms down, which is sometimes a long struggle, and he says sorry of his own volition. Of course I realize you probably have a bit of a language barrier. <br><br>I have tried smacking Isaac's hand before and it never had long-term effects. He would just laugh in my face. Time outs work great for Sydney but not for Isaac. <br><br>Good luck with this one. Thinking about you guys!Lizhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02947588244144731190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33192339.post-61363655005455410742008-10-27T14:13:00.000-04:002008-10-27T14:13:00.000-04:00I am so glad you were able to go to the branch the...I am so glad you were able to go to the branch there. I am hoping we can do the same in our area. Curious - how did you find them? Did you ask your facilitator?<br><br>What a blessing to be able to worship with the Saints there.sturpinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09076447364643644461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33192339.post-78493042310733795342008-10-27T13:43:00.000-04:002008-10-27T13:43:00.000-04:00I just stumbled across your blog - Kristina is pre...I just stumbled across your blog - Kristina is precious. What a joy! We adopted from Mariupol in April and spent lots of time there! Our daughter was at Solnitchka orphanage (I can't tell for sure, but it looks like you are at a different one). Who is your translator? Her voice on the video sounded a lot like ours...is her name Oksana by chance? <br>So glad that things are going well for you! We've been home 6 months now with our daughter, and she has adjusted beautifully. <br>Blessings,<br>Julie Hinshaw <br>julie.hinshaw@sbcglobal.netJuliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01446068234025300810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33192339.post-41176480451540521892008-10-27T12:11:00.000-04:002008-10-27T12:11:00.000-04:00Oh, she's too cute! I can't wait till you ...Oh, she's too cute! I can't wait till you get her home! In my comment to your previous post I did give a pretty detailed explanation of how we were told to deal with hair pulling/slapping. It's interesting, in the video you posted today she pulled your husband's hair when he stopped tossing her. The first thing that popped into my mind was that it was a response to over-stimulation. Clearly she likes being tossed, so you just have to figure out how handle that. Maybe when it happens in other situations it's a combination of over stimulation or a communication issue. ALL behavior is communication, it's just tricky figuring out what they're trying to communicate!Leahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02326240393099112570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33192339.post-43546400237109279442008-10-27T11:46:00.000-04:002008-10-27T11:46:00.000-04:00It seems that your little Kristina is improving wo...It seems that your little Kristina is improving wonderfully. She seems so vibrant and full of life. If you do sing for the judge, try to capture that on video. I would love to hear your talents.Conethia and Jim Bobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00983425684274013465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33192339.post-20237586484381103762008-10-27T11:43:00.000-04:002008-10-27T11:43:00.000-04:00Amazing what it can do for the soul, isn't it!...Amazing what it can do for the soul, isn't it! I'm so glad you were able to meet with the truely wonderful Ukrainian members...and enjoy some real English conversation with the missionaries :-). Attending the Ivano-Frankivsk branch are some of the sweetest highlight memories of our trip.<br><br>As for the hitting/pulling hair and what it means, I mentioned in my last comment that it is a very typical fear/stress response for hurt children who are merely surviving and have no concept of boundaries. It can also point to overstimulation (so can the being totally wound up by the end of your visit). Try doing some more contained and quieter activities with her (stickers, nail painting, etc.) Remember she is used to living in a very small and contained world. It will serve all of you well to keep her world very small, very contained, very structured, and very quiet for quite a while...especially after you get home. Also prep your bio daughter for this type of behavior as best as you can. She's not going to understand it - but will be affected by it in a big way.Dianahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08444891084585965661noreply@blogger.com