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Tuesday, December 09, 2008

Today was

hard. We've been home for 3 weeks now (hard to believe) and most days are better than I imagined that they would be, but today was difficult. Poor Kristina - my patience was very short with her - which usually only happens in the evenings - and things never go well when I'm irritable. I know that we're all adjusting, but I didn't feel like I did as well as I could today as a mama of 3. Anyone else have these days?

12 comments:

Diana said...

Yup. Unfortunately, I've had plenty of them. There must be something in the air because today was one of them for me as well. :-( But, I've learned to accept that they come with the territory and are part of the roller coaster ride of raising special needs kids.

I've also learned that this is where the miracles of repentance and forgiveness come in to play. The good thing is that I can try again tomorrow and keep learning from my kids and my mistakes. Hang in there!

Melisa said...

I feel like I've been in nothing but "crazy mommy" mode these last few weeks.

Saquel25 said...

A good number. But those special moments make it all worth it.

monicalrobbins said...

Wow, like every day!!! No, like you, I have good ones and bad ones, and I do really have to pray for more patience often. One of my daughters has multiple challenges: very poor vision, hyperactivity, learning disabilities, and oh how I wish I could be this wonderfully kind and patient mom with her. After homeschooling her all day, sometimes later on I am not doing as well as I'd like to be. Hang in there...it's only been 3 weeks and it WILL get better. I was in your shoes 3 years ago when Claire came home from China at age 6. She is so much better now! I will keep praying, and remember, His mercies are new every morning!

MamaPoRuski said...

Even after over a year home, changing two things in Z's routine made a huge meltdown errupt. I remembered how hard the first two months home were and then I read your post. I hear you and am sending prayers for strength, wisdoma and HUGS!

Bethany said...

Hang in there ... I think people don't realize (and perhaps we didn't realize either) how hard adoption really is once the kids are home. You have gone from 1 kid to 3 ... that alone is enough to make you crazy, let alone having other issues to deal with. I hope today is a better day!

Rita Andrews said...

Jill
This is all normal. You have gone from 1 to 3 kiddos and it does make you feel nuts at times. IT does get so much better and relaxed I promise....HAng in there and do lots of praying!!!

Sending you some HUGS and if you need to chat again or call me please do.

Rita
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Valerie said...

I have many, many days like this and with 5 toddlers, I feel like my patience is almost always wearing thin. It WILL get easier. The first few months home are difficult. Everyone is adjusting and getting to know one another. It's hard work! If you start to feel like you are losing your mind and just need to talk or vent, please don't hesitate to call ANYTIME(and if I don't answer the first time, call again. . .sometimes it takes me a minute to get to the phone)! Hang in there! You are doing a great job and are a fantastic mother!

Carina said...

I don't know what it's like to suddenly have three very active children, but I have days like that, too, and I only have one! Last night, in fact, was one of those days. But like everyone else has said, hang in there and know that you're doing the best job that you can, and your children love you! =)

Courtney said...

I'm glad to hear so many other people say they have these days too! LOL

Linda said...

Hi Jill,
I saw your post today about RAD. I'm in country right now with my two new angels and don't have outgoing e-mail. I have several kids with RAD. First thing - relax. you are not crazy, you're not a bad mom, it's another disability and you need to read and talk with others who have experienced this. When I get home 12/21 we can write off list about some of the things you can do to help her. An author I suggest is Nancy Thomas. Look her up online she has a website. She is one of my hero's. Her ideas helped me get through my first child with RAD (my Katie who is now 12) I got her at 10 months - at 12 months she was diagnosed with severe RAD. It will get better (of course there are rough roads ahead) but this is doable. But you need to start now before she gets patterns set up that push your buttons. Biggest thing is don't react to her. That takes the wind out of her sails. hang in there! You sound like a great mom! - Linda in Latvia

Tami said...

All. The. Time. Parenting is never easy, but I have to say the transition we made from one child to three was perhaps the most difficult thing I have ever gone through. Hang in there...and give yourself plenty of breaks. Especially when you feel your patience starting to wear thin. ((hugs))