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Friday, October 23, 2009

Good news and bad news

We'll start with the bad news: our renters have backed out so we don't have any lined up to rent our house. This also leads to some not-so-bad news: we don't have to be out of our house by next weekend, which means we can stay in our house longer. We will continue to move things into storage, just not rushed like we have been.

Good news: we finally got both Keith's & Kristina's paperwork filled out which state that they don't need PGI care in FL. Now we will submit this paperwork to the EFMP (exceptional family member program) people on Monday. They will go over it and send it down to Patrick AFB for them to approve it and THEN we'll get an official answer as to whether or not we're moving to FL. My stomach is tied up in knots as I write this post. Tyler & I are emotionally drained over this whole issue. We hope and pray that everything will work out.

Yesterday I held and rocked Keith for 30 minutes as he screamed and screamed. There are things about being an adoptive parent that differ from bio kids. I never rocked Anna for 30 minutes when she was 5 years old as she screamed her head off. Both Keith & Kristina have different needs than other children. I only hope that I can fulfill those needs...and have good hearing at the end of the day. ;o)

7 comments:

mor said...

Tough times Jill, but better things are just around the bend, I'm sure of it. Your children are beautiful, and although they have special needs, the Lord is aware and will help you meet those needs as you are prayerful. You have great faith, and I'm sure He's going to lead you to what needs to happen. Love you.

Christine said...

Jill this sounds familiar. What worked for me was rubbing noses with Dennis with my eyes closed. Since Ketih is older maybe you can tell him that you guys are going to rub noses for 2 minutes and then he can get down. Do this numerous times throughout the day. Rocking him for that long may actually push him away-- if that makes sense. Have a wonderful weekend.

Tami said...

((hugs)) to you. Moving is always so incredibly stressful. Add a couple of new children to the mix and boy it can be overwhelming! :) Thinking of you...praying for you.

Diana said...

((BIG HUGS!)) I so totally know what you mean about your stomach being tied in knots and the stress level being through the roof. We had 3 offers on our house before we finally sold it. The first looked ok on paper, but it was a lowball and we didn't feel good about it AT ALL. We played the game anyway, but in the end the buyer walked away. The second buyers withdrew their offer less than 24 hours after submitting it. The third initially came in at $30,000 below asking price and they'd only come up $10,000. We finally bit the bullet and dumped the place. We're glad we did, too, because prices there have dropped at least another $20,000 since we sold it.

But until that deal was done, we couldn't offer on another house and nor could we register our kids for school. We were also living between the two places, but mostly we were very literally camping (sleeping in sleeping bags on air mattresses) in a gross little hole in the wall in our new location so the house would stay clean. We had stuff in storage in 3 different places and had no idea what was where. By early August, the kids were SO DONE! Gratefully, that is also when everything finally worked out on our house there and we were able to find one here...which was a whole other story in and of itself. Because we lost so much on our other house, finding one here was a challenge to say the least!

We are still not fully settled yet, but things are getting better. It can be fery frustrating and overwhelming not to be able to do eveyrthing you need or want to do and certainly not as quickly as you'd like, but keep the focus on your kids. Meet their needs first and then take care of the other stuff. It will pay off in the long run. Make sure you are also reassuring them CONSTANTLY that even though you are moving to a new house, you are still a family, you are still his mommy, all his stuff is coming with you, and he'll be able to play with all his favorite stuff again soon. Remember that every other time he's ever moved, he literally lost everything and everyone that was important to him.

shannon said...

It looks like Heavenly Father is blessing you despite the loss of your renters. I know we were eager to get renters and would have gone with the first people who came along had we not talked it over with our manager. We waited and even had to pay a month of mortgage with nobody in the house, which was not fun, but we now have excellent renters who I wish never had to move! (They are military). So maybe the Lord is sparing you from any hard times down the road and opening up the place for some better renters. Meanwhile, your packing and moving is able to be less urgent, allowing you to take your time and reassure the kids with things. Think of it as a blessing in disguise. The Lord never fails to bless us and His timing is perfect! Good luck with things! xo

Sarah C said...

I am sorry things have been so tough trying to get ready to move. I hope it all works out.

Liz said...

Just thinking about you guys. Let us know what we can do to help!